Being part of your special day has made this our special day. May your unbounded love and happiness continue and magnify, to illuminate and inspire all around you. May you always have plenty of friends with whom to toast Health, Happiness and Prosperity. We are lucky and proud to count ourselves among them.

Love,
Doug and Collette Lynner

Left to right:
the lead actress Rita Corey, the video’s director, Invisible Zoo members Andy Robinson and Doug Lynner, their interpreter, and some other obscured people.

The Music Video for Invisible Zoo’s minor hit single Nobody’s Girl was filmed in 1983. Its back story is a sitcom: a sign language interpreter hired by the band misunderstands the lyrics to the song, and decides that singers Doug and Andy are insinuating that she is a tramp. Mortally offended, she sues, wins, and literally before they can turn around, Andy and Doug have lost everything to her and are exiled to obscurity. Bill Boydstun, above the fray, gets the girl.

The video is very funny, even if you don’t know sign language. Nobody’s Girl won a Governor’s Award for improving the employability of the disabled, or whatever. I’m not sure of its actual title, we must have it in another box somewhere.

9/11/02

Dear clients, family, friends, neighbors and passersby,

We’ve spent an entire year trying to find words to express our shock and grief at “the terrors” of 9/11/01 and the frightening changes to our political climate since. We can’t, and decided instead to share some observations.

We were visiting the East Coast to celebrate Doug’s mother’s 80th birthday and spend a day with a favorite aunt of mine in Brandywine, MD. We had a rude awakening that day, literally: my aunt pounded the bedroom door, hollering, “Get up, get up, you’re not going anywhere!”

We remember that week as a string of amazing and shocking images:

• Swarms of refugees walking across the Brooklyn Bridge.
• The ironic weather: an empty, endless, cloudless sky after a week of oppressive heat and overcast weather. Walking outside, we could hear constant, thunderous sonic booms from sorties leaving Andrews Air Force Base.
• We saw no aircraft in the sky for days.
• The agonizing images of New Yorkers desperately searching for missing loved ones.
• Emergency Room workers waiting for casualties that didn’t come.
• The excitement of rescue workers finding a survivor.
• The practically empty beltway at rush hour on 9/11. I took the photo [above] heading North on the beltway as we approached the Annapolis on-ramp that evening.
• The sudden bloom of cheap American flags, like wildflowers after a hard spring rain.

I personally see things differently than I used to.

Email has never been more important. While phone circuits were jammed or down, my aunt’s house guest was able to reach his family in Japan to let them know he was safe, and by the end of the day we were able to reach all our friends back home. Members of mailing lists we subscribe to wrote personal accounts of their experience that were more powerful than any film could capture.

Cellphones have never been more important. I remember how amazed I was that the victims aboard Flight 93 could report the hijacking and call their families to say goodbye. I bet victim’s families cherish that last conversation. My cousin, who works in the Pentagon, was able to find her partner on his cellphone that morning. That day I called my landlord to let him know he still had tenants (we didn’t tell him we’d be on vacation), and was able to reach my parents in Virginia.

Family has never been more important. While we can’t write about our grief or shock or anger, we can say without reservation how grateful and lucky we were to be visiting our families on the East Coast that day. Our return to California was delayed and it seemed like life was upside-down for a few days, but we were grateful and relieved to know that our loved ones were safe. We found such comfort in spending time with them. Love is the most powerful emotion I felt that week, more than fear or grief or anger. I want to hang on to that.

People can really be so friendly to each other. In the weeks after 9/11, it’s as if we all decided to drop our baggage and just help each other through another day. Doug and I used priceline.com to purchase airline tickets (US Air) and rent a car for that trip (Hertz). Our original contracts were honored, which meant we were not charged for 5 extra days of car rental. Fellow passengers on our flight home got to know each other and shared food. The San Jose International Airport froze parking fees after 9/11.

There won’t be closure for 9/11 yet, and it’s been a hard year for everyone we know. But things are getting better.

All the best,

Collette McNeill
Doug Lynner
McNeill/Lynner WebWorks

In this life, in every situation, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, we will work to help each other perfectly.

Do you pledge to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to share it with all beings? To take the loving feelings you have for one another and your vision of each other’s potential and inner beauty as an example and rather than spiraling inwards and becoming self-absorbed, to radiate love outwards to all beings?

“We do.”

Do you pledge to remember the disadvantages of ignorance, anger and clinging attachment, to apply antidotes when these arise in your minds, and to remember the kindness of all other beings and your connection to them? Do you pledge to work for the welfare of others, with all of your compassion, wisdom and skill?

“We do.”

Do you pledge day to day, to be patient with yourselves and others, knowing that change comes slowly and gradually, and to seek inspiration from others not to become discouraged?

“We do.”

Do you pledge to continuously strive to remember your own infinite potential, as well as the infinite potential of all living things, to maintain the awareness that all things are temporary, and to remain optimistic that you can achieve your greatest potential and lasting happiness?

“We do.”

(Exchanging lei)
These lei are the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond which unites two loyal hearts in partnership.

By the power vested in me through the wishes of Doug and Collette, as well as the blessing of the lineage of their Spiritual Friends (and the State of California,) I now pronounce you Husband and Wife.

Ladies and Gentlemen, please join me in congratulating Mr. and Mrs. Douglas Lynner.

I would like to extend a special and heart-felt thank-you to Mike Crowley, who married us and who wrote these vows, and to all of our friends and family who helped us pull off a magical Wedding Week last year. Our lives would not be the same without them. It was within the loving and supportive context of our social circles that Doug and I got to the point of marriage in the first place. I have not been happier.